When someone does you wrong, letting them ‘get away with it’ is
insane NOT the key to a happy life. The ‘let it go’ and ‘forgiveness is divine’ stuff only works if you already have that kind of personality. I don’t. I don’t let things go unless they deserve to be let go – by which I mean, unless I am convinced that the perpetrator is genuinely sorry (because mistakes happen) and/or justice had been served. I seek revenge or retaliation or pay-back or whatever you want to call it. That’s just me. Consider yourself warned.
The key to getting revenge without the other person wanting to perpetuate the cycle is to do it right. A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that revenge has to have an audience. It doesn’t. When I turn my guns on you, you won’t know that it’s me and so you’ll never have reason to come chasing after me. I don’t seek revenge so YOU know i’m getting my own back – oh no, I do it for MY satisfaction
and because that’s just the kind of person i am. And because it’s the right thing to do. You do know it’s an honour to be used as a vehicle for karma/justice, right? Nobody else needs to know but me – and that’s what makes me smart and keeps me safe from blood-thristy enemies.
If you feel obliged to tell other people that you’re seeking revenge you’re probably doing it for the wrong reasons. You’re doing it so people can see how hard-core you are. People like that
die young live for applause, and one day you will come across someone who is ‘harder-core’ than you are – then what? The point of revenge is to teach a lesson, and to give you the freedom to move on knowing that all is right in the world once more – justice has been served. No-one else needs to know what you’re doing and why. If you’re advertising your intent then you have a problem that revenge alone wont solve.
Just put away your ego and do your bit to solve humanity’s problems. If the whole world knows what you’re planning you’ll never move on as you’ll always be called upon to explain and justify what you did – this is counter to your goals of moving on and forgetting the original act. So, heed my advice and keep your plans to yourself.
Also, getting ‘silent’ revenge will make other people think you’ve already moved on when in actual fact you’re working on it. You’ll come across as generous of spirit/foolish/a walk-over – but who cares? Remember, this isn’t about other people, you’re not entering a popularity contest, you’re balancing the scales and you don’t need anyone’s approval.
Seeing you squirming and suffering and just generally having a bad time of it in whatever way I brought about does wonders for my spirits – and gives me freedom to never think about you again. It doesn’t have to be a major event, it’s not like i want to see you dead or maimed or anything brutal like that. No. Since i’m still breathing and have all my limbs, I just want you to suffer a little bit, panic a little, maybe have your blood pressure go up by a few points – it doesn’t matter. As long as i feel that your suffering is commensurate with mine, I’m good. And it’s not like i’m irrational about it either – what is this entire post if not the very epitome of sanity?
whatever you do, just be sure that you’re not attracting bad karma – if you’re seeking revenge be sure that you are right to do so. If you can’t be sure, if you’re just being petty and vindictive, then take a step back, take a deep breath and google ‘ how to let go’.