sometimes the truth sneaks up on you –
other times it wallops you across the face and you’re left reeling in a flurry of – well, truth.
lately the saying about truth setting you free has been featuring large in my life. if it’s not people letting me down and showing me their true colours, it’s people showing me their true colours and letting me down. people are so disappointing. it really and truly sucks.
the thing is, i KNOW nobody is perfect – this isn’t about great expectations or anything like that. this is about normal relationships and the normal expectations thereof. i believe i’m easy to please and very undemanding. once upon a time i used to be high-maintenance, but not anymore. as low-maintenance as i am however, there are still things that i expect to be part of any relationship i’m in, be it romantic, family or whatever the case may be.
it feels like i’ve been talking about truth vs lies forever. it’s just that it seems like every time i turn around someone else has told me a big fat lie and i have to deal with the attendant fall-out. c’mon now people, get your acts together please. it really can’t be that difficult.
there is nothing worse that relying on someone, only to find they never intended to keep up their end of the bargain. as fate would have it, you usually find this out when it’s too late to make alternative plans. if you had no intention of doing what you said you would do, then why on earth didn’t you just say so? and if, to give you the benefit of the doubt, ‘something came up’ , why oh why didn’t you say so?
and then of course there are people who say one thing and act another. you know what i’m talking about. everybody has been in a relationship where you think things are going one way only to find they’re going in the exact opposite direction. my friend has recently had this happen to her, and i’m extremely angry on her behalf. why can’t people just say what they mean and follow through with the corresponding action? some guy that she’s been seeing just upped and got married. to someone else. that he met three months ago. they’ve (my friend and the guy) been talking about where to go for the christmas holidays. and now he’s been married for three weeks and she didn’t know. i mean. why would anyone do that?
if he knew she wasn’t the one for him why did he string her along? he was planning a holiday with my friend and all the time he knew it was never going to happen. i mean, for crying out loud!
why not just dump her? i know it sucks to be dumper OR dumpee…but come on now!
if you’re in a relationship and it’s not working for you, get out. that’s ultimately kinder than any other alternative. say what you mean and act what you mean.