They’ve been called ‘toenails of Satan’ and ‘trash’ but I still believe there’s a remnant of men who are genuinely clueless about how to live in harmony and be in fulfilling, life-affirming partnerships with women. I believe there are men who are so confused by the speed at which women are evolving and healing that they just don’t know how to be men in relation to these goddesses. Just yesterday a woman was no more than property (thanks, colonialism) and now women are saying “I’d rather be single than deal with a man’s bullshit.” Men don’t even know what that “bullshit” is, leaving both sexes frustrated and flailing in the dark. Men have been left behind and just don’t understand why women are choosing singledom over them.
Here’s the thing they don’t understand: most self-respecting women would rather be single than tie themselves to unfuckable men. After all, “self love” is a thing. Pun intended.
If you’re a man who wants to be fuckable to high value women, here’s what you need to know (and apply).
How To Be Fuckable
1. Desire her. Not “a woman.” Her. Few things (in context) are more appealing to a woman who fucks men than a man who wants to be fuckable to her and is not only willing but able to prove it.
2. Make her laugh. Trust me on that. The thing is, it’s a “learn as you go” situation because different women find different things funny. A man might make one woman laugh and leave the next one wondering if he shouldn’t be committed. If you want her, make her laugh, and you’re in there like swimwear.
3. Turn her the fuck on. What turns her on? Well, refer to point 1. If you desire a particular woman you must invest time into getting to know her. If you don’t want to put in the time and the work of figuring out what moves her, then you don’t want her, you’re not the man for her, and you should move along.
4. Be lovable. When they choose to, women can love unreservedly. If you don’t want to be loved and/or if all you want in your “romantic” pursuits is no-strings-attached sex, then quality women often can’t fuck with you, literally and metaphorically. It takes more than a smile and a wink to get them nekkid. A lot more. The kind of woman I’m talking about desires a commitment to co-creation so she’ll decline offers for sex or partnership if she perceives that the man making the offer is a liar, cheater, user, abuser, or other unsavoury type. She can create and manifest the life she desires without a man and she knows it, so if she’s going to make room for a man in her already juicy life, he must enhance her experience of the world and be willing to have his enhanced by her. He must be open to receiving the gifts she has for the man who is able to receive her love: he must be lovable or she’ll keep it moving.
5. Be a provider and a protector. A self-actualizing woman will find it nearly impossible to maintain attraction for men who bring nothing to the table except swangin’ dycke. For 9/10 women (study conducted by yours truly) money is a love language, but a man who brings nothing but money is often viewed the same way as the man who brings nothing but dick i.e., both are undesirable. Healthy, high-value women are refusing to settle for less than the full package which includes (but is not limited to) money, sex, holistic wellness and wellbeing, and authenticity around matters of mutual desire. Refer to point 1. In addition, this kind of woman can’t fuck with a man she doesn’t respect and since she can feed, house and clothe herself, a man who wants to be fuckable to a high-calibre woman must step all the way up as a provider and protector. “The basics” alone just wont cut it.
But what does she bring to the table, feminized men and masculinized women will ask? Listen. Men are not women and women are not men and if you don’t know the difference then this isn’t the blog for you. I will say this though: quality women may use gigolos but they don’t allow them access to the magic. The magic is reserved for the fuckable ones and I guess the question is, but are you fuckable though?
Being fuckable to quality women isn’t really complicated; this thing is simple. The self-development world puts it this way: be the person you want to attract. If you’re not ‘pulling’ the high calibre women you want it’s not because they don’t exist, it’s because you’re not fuckable to them. The problem is not women, it’s you. You’re not fuckable to quality women. When you become a better man and have the 5 fuckability factors on lock, you’ll find your goddess and not only that, you’ll know how to keep her. It’s not rocket science.